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    Good article, Nikos. Community is critical to the believer. Yet, people can easily find fault with some aspect of their church and easily leave - and not even try to find another place of fellowship. In every relationship, there are bound to be disagreement. It is a test of our growth, maturity and transformational insight. We need to be forgiving, merciful and understanding and hold the high spiritual ground.

    For me, I have found a pastor that I may disagree with time to time. There are people that have not "done right" by us, but I will not use that as an excuse to leave. We have to realize that we are not necessarily right, either.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jonathan david View Post
    Good article, Nikos. Community is critical to the believer. Yet, people can easily find fault with some aspect of their church and easily leave - and not even try to find another place of fellowship. In every relationship, there are bound to be disagreement. It is a test of our growth, maturity and transformational insight. We need to be forgiving, merciful and understanding and hold the high spiritual ground.

    For me, I have found a pastor that I may disagree with time to time. There are people that have not "done right" by us, but I will not use that as an excuse to leave. We have to realize that we are not necessarily right, either.
    Excellent response! Amen!

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    One should not leave disgruntled but at peace if possible as far as they are concerned..some may not accept that the Lord is leading a person or family away, but He does for various reasons.

    Wondering though, when the article began it spoke of a woman who used to attend the church...she did not say anything about why she left. Why does he seem to assume she left for a new revelation? Just because she left?

    Does the author believe as implied, that God MARRIES us to a local body? I sure don't because the body of Christ is global and I don't see any scripture about an allegiance to a specific body of believers...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Quest View Post
    One should not leave disgruntled but at peace if possible as far as they are concerned..some may not accept that the Lord is leading a person or family away, but He does for various reasons.

    Wondering though, when the article began it spoke of a woman who used to attend the church...she did not say anything about why she left. Why does he seem to assume she left for a new revelation? Just because she left?

    Does the author believe as implied, that God MARRIES us to a local body? I sure don't because the body of Christ is global and I don't see any scripture about an allegiance to a specific body of believers...
    thank you Quest, I was thinking this after I read the article...some pastors ASSUME people leave for trivial reasons, or because of some new revelation, but the fact remains that there are "greener pastures" for some sheep (and I'm not talking about the color of the carpet or even the music ministry) Some would like to think people "marry" a church, and if God leads them out of one for another that they are missing God and will not be blessed. It's an old manipulative tactic. If one leave your church Pastor for somewhere they feel called to, just BLESS them as they go, and stop trying to judge and figure out why.

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    Hmmmm......I get the gist of what you're saying, but I think you carry a good sentiment too far. I believe that as people who do understand covenant, that we should be "in allegiance" to our local Body. That doesn't mean that you are necessarily "married", but it means you've heard from God, and that you are going to be faithful to carry out your assignment there. That means that to the best of your ability, you act accordingly (with regard to acting the way someone would act when they are a people of covenant).



    Quote Originally Posted by Quest View Post
    One should not leave disgruntled but at peace if possible as far as they are concerned..some may not accept that the Lord is leading a person or family away, but He does for various reasons.

    Wondering though, when the article began it spoke of a woman who used to attend the church...she did not say anything about why she left. Why does he seem to assume she left for a new revelation? Just because she left?

    Does the author believe as implied, that God MARRIES us to a local body? I sure don't because the body of Christ is global and I don't see any scripture about an allegiance to a specific body of believers...

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    Quote Originally Posted by CatchyUsername View Post
    Hmmmm......I get the gist of what you're saying, but I think you carry a good sentiment too far. I believe that as people who do understand covenant, that we should be "in allegiance" to our local Body. That doesn't mean that you are necessarily "married", but it means you've heard from God, and that you are going to be faithful to carry out your assignment there. That means that to the best of your ability, you act accordingly (with regard to acting the way someone would act when they are a people of covenant).
    Not sure I follow... your tone is a little disagreement yet your conclusion seems the same as mine...our agreement is to follow Holy Spirit and go or stay where HE leads..The article called leaving a church as divorce so I was noting that THAT is taking the relationship concept to a local body to an unbiblical level..so what sentiment am I taking to far?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Quest View Post
    Not sure I follow... your tone is a little disagreement yet your conclusion seems the same as mine...our agreement is to follow Holy Spirit and go or stay where HE leads..The article called leaving a church as divorce so I was noting that THAT is taking the relationship concept to a local body to an unbiblical level..so what sentiment am I taking to far?
    Where you said:

    I sure don't because the body of Christ is global and I don't see any scripture about an allegiance to a specific body of believers...

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    Any covenant relationship is based on truth and integrity. If either party violates these two principles on a regular basis then there is no basis for a covenant any longer. You must leave and you must do it quickly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LionHeart View Post
    Any covenant relationship is based on truth and integrity. If either party violates these two principles on a regular basis then there is no basis for a covenant any longer. You must leave and you must do it quickly.
    Attending a church is not a spiritually binding covenant..nor is it a legal one...making a vow to a body is only binding in the sense that the Lord tells us we should swear to our own hurt and change not..God does not expect us to make vows to local congregations but to attend where He said go and do what HE says do while we are there.

    There is nothing in the NT that even hints we are to 'join' in covenant with a local body.

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