I actually agree with the above
but
There are many teachers and everyone chooses to believe their views. Even Commentaries by respectable theologians can disagree
There are also Reformed and non Reformed teachers.
Everyone has to read the scriptures with a open heart, ask the Holy Spirit to interpret as well as read what other teachers say and come up with a conclusion
Nothing Reformed teachers have said have swayed me as they contradict too many other verses.
Respectable Non Reformed teachers make a far better argument and more closely exegete the Word
The issue arises because you don't accept that millions of believers reject the exegesis of Reformed Doctrine. You then tell everyone they are wrong and what you believe is right