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    ODD-Opositional Defiance Disorder

    Have any of you ever had to deal with a person (child) who has what appears to be Opositional Defiance Disorder? (at least that is what the secular name is)

    We are at our wits end with trying to home school our 10 year old. HELP!

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    And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

    Various translations here:

    http://biblehub.com/ephesians/6-4.htm

    I think you also have to be mindful of their energy tank, sometimes it needs to be drained via exercise, etc.

    Take a quiet walk around the block with him.

    Once you see that frustration, there is no longer communication taking place. Time out.

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    Yup. Six years as a compliance officer in juvenile probate, had me surrounded by them on our residential recovery school bus twice daily, 18 of them and one of me

    The main thing is rock steady consistency with rules and consequences. Dont enter into a power struggle or let yourself be badgered into compromise. Be patient.

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    Drop your Holy Ghost bucket down your well and pray in the Spirit...


    Proverbs 20:5
    Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out.



    This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity (futility) of their mind, having the understanding darkened...
    (Ephesians 4:17-18)

    Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly...
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    I learned a lot about parenting from the Dog Whisperer, Caesar...:)

    What have you done so far?

    Zeke, I learned for myself that the limits I reach are not necessarily with the kids but with all the other demands of life, expectations set by opinions of ourselves or others....that seem to limit my time and focus on the kids...in other words you can't have a limit....

    The other is I suggest give him responsibilities...leave him to do them....UNTIL he does it. If at the end of the day it was not done or not done right, repeat the same process the next day. Give him the same assignments...leave him to do them...Make sure he understands, this is what must be done and you have total confidence in his ability to do it........and when it's done we can do something YOU want to do...maybe give him a choice of a couple of activities...

    This same simple process must go as long as is necessary for them to become confident in themselves and you...

    My grandson is ADHD...one day I took him to his school open house. As we left I asked if he was excited about school. He responded, 'No, I am dumb..'

    From that moment on our approach to him was totally different...we went from being the authoritarian so to speak to being a life coach...we told him he was intelligent and needed tools to mast the things interfering with his ability to express it....Now years later he no longer get into fights, is no longer failing, and has a lot more confidence...

    Don't set an expectation based on some class schedule or what or how kids SHOULD perform....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ezekiel 33 View Post
    Have any of you ever had to deal with a person (child) who has what appears to be Opositional Defiance Disorder? (at least that is what the secular name is)

    We are at our wits end with trying to home school our 10 year old. HELP!
    If I could, I would reach through the computer and give you and your wife a hug. I understand how hard this can be. Here are a few things I would suggest.

    Please, talk with your doctor. Have him tested. Then pray, and pray some more, and follow the doctor's instruction. If they recommend medicine, I would greatly encourage you to allow your child to take it. (Not knowing how you feel about this medication or any meds for that matter)

    Look, ODD is very difficult, and many times, hair pulling. My BFF has an adult child with ODD, and, to say it was difficult was a "soft" word to describe the trials she endured. He has grown out of most of it (he is 25 now) and is actually quite pleasant to be around. But to my knowledge, he still needs his meds to keep him stable. I have an adult child with ADHD. My son does not need medication any more.

    I would also research the symptoms and various forms of treatment. I spent six months wandering through the internet and searching, seeking, and pulling out my hair because I did not want my child on medication due to his ADHD. But turns out, that I learned so much about ADHD that it was to his benefit that he be on medicine for awhile and it helped him to learn how to learn, and it taught him when he was being in an impulse behavior. My son is now 25 (almost 26) and while he doesn't need meds, he is very aware of when he is in his ADHD mode.

    Please remember to be patient and encouraging when good behavior rises to the occasion because your child needs to hear praise as well.

    You might be surprised to learn that while your child is ODD, there is apart of your child that is aware that he isn't doing something right, but cannot explain why he does, or he might even not remember doing them.

    Please let us know what is happening. I will keep you and your family in prayer.

    Also on a more personal note, if you or your wife would like to contact me, ask me questions, or anything, I am open. I will help you through this (if I can) and try to explain things that do not make sense.

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    Thanks so much for the input and the prayers. Our daughter is also going on 11, so there is a hormonal aspect to all this too.

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