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    8 Reasons Some Church Members Are Mean

    8 Reasons Some Church Members Are Mean
    By Chuck Lawless

    To be honest, I've been blessed. In all the churches where I've served as pastor or interim pastor, most of my members have been great people. Sometimes, though, a church member can be downright mean. Based on our Lawless Group interviews and surveys over the years, here are some of the reasons church members can be mean:

    1. All church members are still people. That's not an excuse for meanness, though; it's just an admission of reality. Even saved people sometimes act like sinners when the right button gets pushed.

    2. Some are nonbelievers. Even Jesus had one in His immediate group of 12 who was never a believer, and I doubt our churches will do better than Jesus did. Lost people will always act like lost people eventually—even when they don't think they're lost.

    3. Many are undiscipled. Too many churches bring people into the local congregation, but then do nothing to disciple them. The new believers remain babies in Christ, even when they've been in the church for years. Usually, they whine a lot.

    4. Some are carrying burdens alone. Often, we don't know what burdens others bear because we choose to carry our own pain alone. The father who can't find a job ... the parents whose child has been arrested ... the teen whose parents have just split up ... the faithful member who is being abused ... sometimes the anguish of life weighs so heavy on us that our tempers are short and our words are volatile.

    5. Some were given authority far too early. When our churches give positions to those who haven't yet grown (and many churches do that, granting positions on the basis of years in the church rather than on maturity in the faith), we shouldn't be surprised when they fight to protect their toys. That's what kids do.

    6. Some are living in sin. For anyone who is a true believer, the conviction of sin cuts deeply—but that doesn't always result in immediate repentance. Church members who remain in their sin for any length of time sometimes turn their conviction on others. Judging somebody else at least briefly turns their attention from their own sin.

    7. Some have anger issues. Maybe you know people like that. They're great one minute, but they erupt like a volcano the next. They're often quickly repentant, too, but they get no help in breaking the pattern.

    8. The church lets them be mean. At the bottom line, church members are mean because the church allows them to be that way. For whatever reason—perhaps it's fear of losing members—churches sometimes refuse to confront members who need to repent of their rudeness and unkindness. Instead, we simply let them live in their sin. The choice to avoid confrontation is unChristian. In fact, you might even say it's mean.


    Chuck Lawless currently serves as Professor of Evangelism and Missions and Dean of Graduate Studies at Southeastern Seminary. You can connect with Dr. Lawless on Twitter @Clawlessjr and on at facebook.com/CLawless.


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    Don't agree with him that Judas was an unbeliever. Judas was healing the sick and casting out devils along with the rest of the disciples. Other than that, interesting article with some good points.
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    Quote Originally Posted by A.J. View Post
    8 Reasons Some Church Members Are Mean
    By Chuck Lawless

    To be honest, I’ve been blessed. In all the churches where I’ve served as pastor or interim pastor, most of my members have been great people. Sometimes, though, a church member can be downright mean. Based on our Lawless Group interviews and surveys over the years, here are some of the reasons church members can be mean:

    1. All church members are still people. That’s not an excuse for meanness, though; it’s just an admission of reality. Even saved people sometimes act like sinners when the right button gets pushed.

    2. Some are nonbelievers. Even Jesus had one in His immediate group of 12 who was never a believer, and I doubt our churches will do better than Jesus did. Lost people will always act like lost people eventually—even when they don’t think they’re lost.

    3. Many are undiscipled. Too many churches bring people into the local congregation, but then do nothing to disciple them. The new believers remain babies in Christ, even when they’ve been in the church for years. Usually, they whine a lot.

    4. Some are carrying burdens alone. Often, we don’t know what burdens others bear because we choose to carry our own pain alone. The father who can’t find a job … the parents whose child has been arrested … the teen whose parents have just split up … the faithful member who is being abused … sometimes the anguish of life weighs so heavy on us that our tempers are short and our words are volatile.

    5. Some were given authority far too early. When our churches give positions to those who haven’t yet grown (and many churches do that, granting positions on the basis of years in the church rather than on maturity in the faith), we shouldn’t be surprised when they fight to protect their toys. That’s what kids do.

    6. Some are living in sin. For anyone who is a true believer, the conviction of sin cuts deeply—but that doesn’t always result in immediate repentance. Church members who remain in their sin for any length of time sometimes turn their conviction on others. Judging somebody else at least briefly turns their attention from their own sin.

    7. Some have anger issues. Maybe you know people like that. They’re great one minute, but they erupt like a volcano the next. They’re often quickly repentant, too, but they get no help in breaking the pattern.

    8. The church lets them be mean. At the bottom line, church members are mean because the church allows them to be that way. For whatever reason—perhaps it’s fear of losing members—churches sometimes refuse to confront members who need to repent of their rudeness and unkindness. Instead, we simply let them live in their sin. The choice to avoid confrontation is unChristian. In fact, you might even say it’s mean.


    Chuck Lawless currently serves as Professor of Evangelism and Missions and Dean of Graduate Studies at Southeastern Seminary. You can connect with Dr. Lawless on Twitter @Clawlessjr and on at facebook.com/CLawless.


    http://www.churchleaders.com/pastors...re-mean.html/1

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    Quote Originally Posted by victoryword View Post
    Don't agree with him that Judas was an unbeliever. Judas was healing the sick and casting out devils along with the rest of the disciples. Other than that, interesting article with some good points.
    Let me guess, he is calvinistic in his beliefs? If he is, then he has to make Judas out as a non-believer in order to fit with his theology. So many things get tinted by the glasses we wear.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ezekiel 33 View Post
    Let me guess, he is calvinistic in his beliefs? If he is, then he has to make Judas out as a non-believer in order to fit with his theology. So many things get tinted by the glasses we wear.
    Good point.

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    Quote Originally Posted by victoryword View Post
    Don't agree with him that Judas was an unbeliever. Judas was healing the sick and casting out devils along with the rest of the disciples. Other than that, interesting article with some good points.
    satan isn't an unbeliever either... he just decided to rebel like judas did

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    Quote Originally Posted by Farm Truck View Post
    satan isn't an unbeliever either... he just decided to rebel like judas did
    Even the demons believe, and they tremble with fear.

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