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    I Grew Up With Two Moms

    Really interesting read.

    I grew up with two moms: here's the uncomfortable truth that nobody wants to hear

    Between 1973 and 1990, when my beloved mother passed away, she and her female romantic partner raised me. They had separate houses but spent nearly all their weekends together, with me, in a trailer tucked discreetly in an RV park 50 minutes away from the town where we lived. As the youngest of my mother's biological children, I was the only child who experienced childhood without my father being around.

    After my mother's partner's children had left for college, she moved into our house in town. I lived with both of them for the brief time before my mother died at the age of 53. I was 19. In other words, I was the only child who experienced life under "gay parenting" as that term is understood today.

    Quite simply, growing up with gay parents was very difficult, and not because of prejudice from neighbors. People in our community didn't really know what was going on in the house. To most outside observers, I was a well-raised, high-achieving child, finishing high school with straight A's.

    Inside, however, I was confused. When your home life is so drastically different from everyone around you, in a fundamental way striking at basic physical relations, you grow up weird. I have no mental health disorders or biological conditions. I just grew up in a house so unusual that I was destined to exist as a social outcast.

    My peers learned all the unwritten rules of decorum and body language in their homes; they understood what was appropriate to say in certain settings and what wasn't; they learned both traditionally masculine and traditionally feminine social mechanisms.

    Even if my peers' parents were divorced, and many of them were, they still grew up seeing male and female social models. They learned, typically, how to be bold and unflinching from male figures and how to write thank-you cards and be sensitive from female figures. These are stereotypes, of course, but stereotypes come in handy when you inevitably leave the safety of your lesbian mom's trailer and have to work and survive in a world where everybody thinks in stereotypical terms, even gays.

    I had no male figure at all to follow, and my mother and her partner were both unlike traditional fathers or traditional mothers. As a result, I had very few recognizable social cues to offer potential male or female friends, since I was neither confident nor sensitive to others. Thus I befriended people rarely and alienated others easily. Gay people who grew up in straight parents' households may have struggled with their sexual orientation; but when it came to the vast social universe of adaptations not dealing with sexuality—how to act, how to speak, how to behave—they had the advantage of learning at home. Many gays don't realize what a blessing it was to be reared in a traditional home.

    My home life was not traditional nor conventional. I suffered because of it, in ways that are difficult for sociologists to index. Both nervous and yet blunt, I would later seem strange ...



    https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/gr...e-untold-story

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    More and more stories of that nature are coming out from children raised by gay parents:


    "...As children, we are not allowed to express our disagreement, pain and confusion," Stefanowicz explained. "Most adult children from gay households do not feel safe or free to publicly express their stories and life-long challenges; they fear losing professional licenses, not obtaining employment in their chosen field, being cut off from some family members or losing whatever relationship they have with their gay parent(s). Some gay parents have threatened to leave no inheritance, if the children don't accept their parent's partner du jour."

    "I grew up with a parent and her partner[s] in an atmosphere in which gay ideology was used as a tool of repression, retribution and abuse," B.N. Klein wrote of her experience with a lesbian mother. "I have seen that children in gay households often become props to be publicly displayed to prove that gay families are just like heterosexual ones."

    Klein said she was taught that "some Jews and most Christians were stupid and hated gays and were violent," and that homosexuals were "much more creative and artistic" because they were not repressed and were naturally more 'feeling.'"

    "At the same time I was given the message that if I did not agree (which I did not), I was stupid and damned to a life of punishing hostility from my mother and her partner," she recounts. "They did this with the encouragement of all their gay friends in the community and they were like a cheering squad. I was only allowed out of my room to go to school. This could go on for weeks."

    "I was supposed to hate everyone based on what they thought of my mother and her partner," said Klein. "People's accomplishments did not matter, their personal struggles did not matter, and their own histories were of no consequence. The only thing that mattered was what they thought of gays."
    Robert Oscar Lopez who was also raised by a lesbian mother and her partner, had a different experience which he described as the "best possible conditions for a child raised by a same-sex couple."

    "Had I been formally studied by same-sex parenting 'experts' in 1985, I would have confirmed their rosiest estimations of LGBT family life," Lopez wrote, but then went on to argue against same-sex marriage saying that, "behind these facades of a happy 'outcome' lay many problems."

    He describes experiencing a great deal of sexual confusion due to the lack of a father figure in his life. He turned to a life of prostitution with older men as a teenager.

    "I had an inexplicable compulsion to have sex with older males," he recounted, saying he "wanted to have sex with older men who were my father's age, though at the time I could scarcely understand what I was doing..."

    http://www.cnsnews.com/news/article/...-federal-court

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    Gay 'parents' would, of course, work to silence any view that their lifestyle is wrong..and children would know they were not allowed to express that causing great emotional distress and confusion..sounds like a form of child abuse.

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