Thread: I don't understand...

... why people I thought were grounded, mature Christians will live together with someone instead of getting married.

I just don't understand.

it's become an accepted thing. The whole idea that people wouldn't have sex, regardless of marriage, is laughable for most people now.

Hyper grace is part of the problem IN the church....to tell a Christians their choices are wrong/sin is renounced as judging....there truly is a tremendous amount of idolatry within the 'Christian' community. By idolatry I speak of formulating a god in the mind that does not exist...

Originally Posted by Quest

Hyper grace is part of the problem IN the church....to tell a Christians their choices are wrong/sin is renounced as judging....there truly is a tremendous amount of idolatry within the 'Christian' community. By idolatry I speak of formulating a god in the mind that does not exist...

There's the kind that don't care about their sins or who simply go with the logic of the world. There's also the kind that is more thought through and who reason like some of the American posters here have done, that marriage isn't the government's business so it becomes a DIY thing. There may be paperwork involved, there may not be. Some of them may be fooling themselves even if their intentions seem good but this is also the case sometimes when people are married legally. Especially when they get married without bothering much about searching their intentions since they reason that the paperwork itself is proof that it is legitimate.

Originally Posted by Colonel

There's the kind that don't care about their sins or who simply go with the logic of the world. There's also the kind that is more thought through and who reason like some of the American posters here have done, that marriage isn't the government's business so it becomes a DIY thing. There may be paperwork involved, there may not be. Some of them may be fooling themselves even if their intentions seem good but this is also the case sometimes when people are married legally. Especially when they get married without bothering much about searching their intentions since they reason that the paperwork itself is proof that it is legitimate.

....I just don't think most who choose to live together really think that deeply about it at all....they might use that argument but not because they actually believe it...if they did, the question, 'Then why NOT just get the paper?' silences them...

The fear of The Lord is no longer operative in the lives of people, even Christians. Yet from God's point of view, it's still the beginning of wisdom. Those who disregard the fear of The Lord are fools.

Originally Posted by Quest

....I just don't think most who choose to live together really think that deeply about it at all....they might use that argument but not because they actually believe it...if they did, the question, 'Then why NOT just get the paper?' silences them...

Times are changing and there are more and more people that see that as a legitimate alternative to legal marriage, not just as a way of rebelling or simply not caring. Don't assume per default that everyone that call themselves Christians and who do that are simply rebelling. Ask them first and see what they say. "why not just get the paper" might get you the reply "we have a paper, just not the government's version".