Originally Posted by
CatchyUsername
Sister....I don't make any analogy, "devoid of faith". I "make decisions" based on the Holy Spirit's guidance, nothing more, nothing less. And by the way, you are the one who has been divorced, Quest, not me.
My grandmother suffered horrifically because of your legalistic view. She was a very godly woman, raised by godly people. She met and married my grandfather, who seemed to be a good man when she married him. But he turned into a terrible drunk shortly after marriage. He beat my grandmother, he beat their children, he scarred my mother terribly, with psychological wounds that marred HER marriage to my father. And he abandoned her, after tormenting her for years, in a day and age when women didn't have careers. She refused to divorce my grandfather for many, many, years, even though he shacked up with many other women, because she knew that she could never remarry, and have any hope of getting remarried and have a chance of getting out of poverty. So she lived in poverty her whole life. Yes, Quest, she had God, and a parakeet, living in a broken-down house with a huge crack in the door where my grandfather threw a chair through the door in one of his rages. What a miserable world this legalism creates, Quest. You just happened to be born at a time when women have some hope of making a decent living and having opportunities as a divorced woman.
The reason why Margaret Sanger even had a voice in this country was because of the type of stuff I wrote above. Women eventually became BITTER because the CULTURE that biblical legalism created was rife with broken, abused, neglected, abandoned, women, with many children, forced into servitude and downright destitution.
That is NOT GOD. That is not His Spirit, dictating some bizarre notion of staying in a "marriage...so called" and staying with a spouse that is non-repentant, abusive, and shows not one iota of Christ towards the other spouse.
We have the same conversations, year to year, and no one ever changes their opinion. I pray to God you never counsel someone whose spouse is beating them and never showing any repentance for years on end, to stay married. People have a free will. If people don't want to change and come under the guidance of the Holy Spirit, it is between them and God. The spouse does not have to inject themselves into all of that and should be free to move on with their life and make a new life with a godly, loving, partner, that honors them, their marriage, and their vows, the way God intended.