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    Would You Attend a Re-Marriage Ceremony?

    With all of the "trade-ins" going on in the church, would you attend the wedding ceremony of a couple who were involved in adultery prior to their "new marriage"?
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    Quote Originally Posted by John View Post
    With all of the "trade-ins" going on in the church, would you attend the wedding ceremony of a couple who were the involved in adultery prior to their "new marriage"?
    Good question! Where's that popcorn emoticon?

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    Quote Originally Posted by John View Post
    With all of the "trade-ins" going on in the church, would you attend the wedding ceremony of a couple who were the involved in adultery prior to their "new marriage"?
    I would stay away if I had a bad feeling about it in my heart, in the Spirit. In a real life situation I'd probably know a bit more about the situation than your description says, though.

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    A Reverend in my old church left his wife to marry the church secretary (who left her husband.) I still think it's one of the grossest things I've heard. I'm sure I would not have attended their wedding had I been invited. The same church, the worship teams "swapped" spouses. At least the Rev. left the church, as far as I know, the worship team is still there. Yuck!

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    I think I am with Colonel...as for your situation Susan, I would not either..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Colonel View Post
    I would stay away if I had a bad feeling about it in my heart, in the Spirit. In a real life situation I'd probably know a bit more about the situation than your description says, though.

    I was trying to be specific to those that convert their adultery partner into a new spouse. The "David anointing" kind of thing.

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    Being led by the Spirit is the best way to handle this situation (as the Colonel stated) but other factors determine things for me:

    1. Was the person a Christian before his divorce and after becoming a Christian was there any attempt to reconcile with the spouse? The answer to that would determine my involvement.

    2. If the man or woman was having an affair with the person while married, later divorced and decided to marry their mistress I would not get involved.

    2. If a "Christian" man or woman left their spouse for any reason other than adultery or abuse (primarily physical) and decided to remarry then I would rather not get involved.

    There are numerous other factors that I would take on a case by case basis and through prayer and understanding God's stipulations on divorce and remarriage. Some things are very clear in Scripture and I will not compromise any of them because Jesus comes before people no matter how much I may love them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by John View Post
    I was trying to be specific to those that convert their adultery partner into a new spouse. The "David anointing" kind of thing.
    Good point...Again, I think we devalue repentance.. David grieved for he and Bathsheba's son conceived in sin...He repented grievously for his sin...God blessed their marriage.

    These are key factors in interpreting Jesus discourse regarding divorce...again, some do this intending to 'repent' after the fact. As I stated before, that's dangerous ground..one may not find that place of true repentance..not that God rejects, just that that kind of willful sin is deceptive...there is NO indication that David ever engaged that kind of thought process...he was just consumed with himself and his pride and lust...it took Nathan approaching him from a different angle for him to RECOGNIZE and then acknowledge his sin...

    That's why I agree that it needs to be a case by case evaluation...

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    Quote Originally Posted by John View Post
    I was trying to be specific to those that convert their adultery partner into a new spouse. The "David anointing" kind of thing.
    Let's say they have dealt properly with their actual spouses first and that has actually come to an end that is agreed upon by both spouses. Now the situation looks a bit similar to when people fornicate then get married, which means that their fornication came to an end by their getting married.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Quest View Post
    Good point...Again, I think we devalue repentance.. David grieved for he and Bathsheba's son conceived in sin...He repented grievously for his sin...God blessed their marriage.

    These are key factors in interpreting Jesus discourse regarding divorce...again, some do this intending to 'repent' after the fact. As I stated before, that's dangerous ground..one may not find that place of true repentance..not that God rejects, just that that kind of willful sin is deceptive...there is NO indication that David ever engaged that kind of thought process...he was just consumed with himself and his pride and lust...it took Nathan approaching him from a different angle for him to RECOGNIZE and then acknowledge his sin...

    That's why I agree that it needs to be a case by case evaluation...
    > God blessed their marriage.

    well, maybe kinda, don't forget that their firstborn was lost because of Davids sin and I don't know if you've ever looked into the aftermath of Davids death but in case you haven't, one of the first things that happened was murder, step-kid problems I suppose.

    I think the OT model that I've actually see play out is Samson/Delilah, an unsanctioned marriage, Samson lost his vision and pulled the house down onto himself. Great exploits for the Lord but at a pretty significant price.

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